We found a girl who once worked in the online sex industry, and asked her what to do if your long-distance romance reached a climax.…
One of the most difficult aspects of a long—distance relationship is dealing with your sexual desires, as well as your partner’s needs. We can romantically correspond as much as we want, but there comes a time when it becomes very, very difficult to maintain physical fidelity. Someone decides to blow off steam on the side, and perhaps this is the only acceptable solution for them if you don’t tell your remote partner about it. Some people feel fine even in absolute celibacy.
However, for many of us, sex is not only an urgent physiological need, but also something more, which means that an affair on the side can easily destroy a relationship. In this case, there is only one way out: to master virtual sex! We asked professional cam-girl Lauren Rovello for advice on how best to approach this issue. Here are seven tips from her.
- Ask for her consent.
Just like with regular sex, it’s better to be safe and get a firm “yes” in advance, advises Lauren.
Think about how much you trust this person, at what stage is your relationship? If your partner has ever tried to manipulate or blackmail you, virtual sex is definitely not something worth doing with him. It’s the same if you’ve just met in some random chat and you don’t know each other at all. By and large, the ethics of real sex are quite applicable to virtual sex: if you see a person for the first time, sex with them is a rather risky activity. In general, these tips are more relevant for women, however, if we recall the scandal with Dzyuba… In general, you can substitute anyone over the Internet!
- Mark the frames
There are many different types of virtual sex. It can be phone sex, an intimate photo shoot that you send to each other, sexting (sex through messages), and finally, a simultaneous masturbation session in video call mode. Discuss which of these forms of intimate communication is comfortable for both of you. When you have chosen the method, discuss the details: whether your faces will be in the frame, whether you will destroy intimate videos and photos immediately after receiving them. Whether it’s just a boudoir shoot, full nudity, or even penetration/ejaculation.
If you agree on everything in advance and make sure that you really want it and trust each other, you will remove many barriers in advance that may prevent you from enjoying the process.
- Choose a secure platform
Lauren thinks this is the most important piece of advice. For example, Zoom and Skype are seen in the information drain. You need to make sure that your messages are end-to-end encrypted, that is, they are encrypted from hackers. Telegram and Signal are reliable enough, Lauren says.
It also doesn’t hurt to change the password on your Internet router and make sure that no one is connected to your network.
Finally, a practical tip for sending intimate photos: make a “watermark” on them (or just paste the name of your recipient on top). So if the photos are published, your partner will be responsible for it.
- Add beauty
Don’t forget about the exterior surroundings. Of course, the main object is your body. However, a soft blanket on the sofa, beautiful light and maybe even a couple of candles in the background will create the right mood, especially for girls.
In fact, beautiful light is easier than it seems: a desk lamp aimed at you will do. By the way, if the lamp has a strong directional light, you can leave only it, so any mess and unnecessary details around the edges of the frame will simply disappear into oblivion. Also, a stack of books that will lift the computer will help you figure out the cropping.
- Start slowly and adjust the pace.
You should not immediately rush headlong into the most important thing. Still, girls need foreplay, which can be slow undressing and stroking themselves on various minor parts of the body. Let her do the solo, and you be an observer and don’t forget to make enthusiastic comments.
If you already want to move on to something more explicit from your partner, it’s fine to ask for it (if, of course, it’s within the pre-agreed boundaries).
- Use words.
In general, don’t be afraid to use words and call things by their proper names (or euphemisms you use). Dirty conversations can warm you up almost as much as a picture.
By the way, tenderness works just as well as frankness. Tell me how much you miss her scent, the softness of her hair, her silky skin, and that cherished dimple.…
- Toys are welcome
For girls, in addition to the obvious vibrators, there is a huge arsenal of all kinds of interesting gizmos. A feather duster, any household cylindrical objects, ice cubes and even fruits or vegetables (not too soft and not causing allergies)… By the way, progress has reached the point where you can be more than just a passive observer. There are vibrators for virtual sex that you can control remotely via the Internet. What’s not a great gift for her on February 14th!
Let your separation become a field for the most daring experiments. Maybe you’ll remember her with gratitude later!