Many people are accustomed to believe that sex is exclusively a sexual act. If he’s not there, then there’s no sex. Meanwhile, people’s sexual reactions are a much more comprehensive issue. We suggest you expand the boundaries of your knowledge and add more sex to your life.
If ordinary people basically mean only sexual intercourse by sex, then the most important researchers of sexuality of the twentieth century have always looked at this question more broadly.
For example, Helen Singer Kaplan, an Austrianโborn American psychotherapist, said that people’s sexual reactions go through three stages: attraction, arousal, and orgasm.
Legendary William Masters and Virginia Johnson (American sexologists who conducted their research in the 50s of the twentieth century) have already identified four stages: arousal, plateau, orgasm, resolution.
Our contemporary, Emily Nagoski, an American psychotherapist and specialist in the study of sexuality, writes in her book “How a Woman Wants” that another important point was not taken into account in the scientific developments of the last century: sexual desire, from which everything begins.
Finally, Charles Gelman, ex-president of the French Society of Clinical Sexology, identified as many as 8 stages of sexual reactions: sexual interest, sexual desire, arousal, plateau, orgasm, resolution, refractory period, mental processing.
In simple Russian, sex is not just about coitus. It’s a whole range of different experiences that can fill your life with very pleasant emotions.
Just start paying attention to them.
Curiosity, interest
Sex begins when you catch a man’s eye and the question arises in your head: “I wonder if he paid attention to me?” Or you yourself noticed someone very pretty in the crowd at the exhibition or in a group of colleagues, and he also reacted to your look.
Who is this man? What is he doing nearby? What is he like? How does he feel about me? All these questions, especially if they arise mutually, are the beginning of sex.
Therefore, wherever you are, this “sex” is always with you, as long as you are looking at men with interest, and not social media feeds on your own smartphone.
Inspiration, charm
Having met a nice man, you see the best in him, you are charmed.: his laugh, the timbre of his voice, the ability to wear a suit (or sweatpants!), the shape of his fingers, and even the way he looks at you.
Just enjoy this lovemaking, the fact that a man awakens so many different, but mostly pleasant feelings in you just by the fact of his presence.
Flirting, courtship
This stage of the development of sexual relations is the most vivid, so people do not have any difficulties in noticing it, feeling it and feeling it as much as possible every minute.
When both had already almost openly confessed their sympathies to each other, not directly, but no less eloquently โ with compliments, signs of attention, special treatment, glances and first touches.
Dreams, anticipation
When you notice his reciprocal interest, your mind will surely be overshadowed by fantasies. How does it smell? What does his hair feel like? Is the skin tender? How will he touch you for the first time? How he kisses and under what circumstances this first kiss will take place. It’s all about sex, too.
It’s tempting to skip this stage as soon as possible, but you can also enjoy it. And if the object of sympathy does not share your feelings, the period of anticipation may drag on. In this case, just mentally thank the person for causing such a storm of feelings in you, and continue your search.
Sex
Actually, that’s what most people like to enjoy and know how to do without our prompting.
Relaxation
All of the above points keep a person in emotional tension for a long time. Therefore, after sex, orgasms, caresses and delights, one of the most pleasant periods comes โ a relaxed pacification.
The feeling that passions have finally subsided can cause anxiety and slight disappointment, but this is completely normal. Even if the passionate romance did not get a sequel, it is valuable that it was.
Experiencing the experience, tenderness, gratitude
These emotions can be experienced while already in a relationship, and even if they don’t work out.
The way you remember passion, kisses, dates, and your own feelings helps you cherish this wonderful experience. And that’s all sex, too. This is how you feel sexy and desirable.
And the mood and expectations with which you will meet another man. Or you will love this one.