Young age, lack of experience and understanding of your body is not a reason to put a label on yourself) Things can still change. When I was your age, I didn’t have orgasms at all, but I had sex out of curiosity and a desire for tactility. And I wouldn’t say it was good sex for me, it was more a sexual charity or just some kind of mess. But sweatโฆ.In short, I believe that everything will be fine with you in time.
The dichotomy of “okay, calm, but no sex” and “passion, fire, smashing dishes and eternal drama” is false and should remain in the stupid toxic romcoms of the noughties. Movies are not real life, you should not check them when making decisions about your body.
It may be good, calmly, but behind closed doors – any kind of debauchery to your taste (I’m sure the comments will confirm this!). But you don’t know your tastes yet. Self-knowledge is a process, not a matter of one day.
The fact that a person is calm and reliable is useful in everyday life and helps to ground oneself in stress. But sex is not the rational side of life (here the diet is at the level of contraception, protecting oneself from danger, awareness of STDs, etc.). This is the sensual side. There must be a sparkle and mutual attraction, otherwise it’s not sex, but exercise.
We are not asking you to end a relationship or change it, God forbid. But you can just stare, read, consume content, figure out what is beautiful and pleasant for you, and what is fu. Attraction can be caused even by a fictional character. And by self-knowledge, I mean a variety of masturbation. Yes, it’s not the same as sex, but it will give you the answer to the question “what do I want and like”.
Books are good, but life doesn’t consist of theory. I think your sexuality is not “missing”, but just sleeping. I’m not saying that she’ll explode like a volcanic eruption later; maybe you’ll remain such a calm person with a moderate interest in the sexual sphere. But when you try different things, you will know this for sure about yourself, and not according to the theory from books.