Any relationship consists of two people trying to get what they need. Sometimes they want the same thing – companionship, relaxation, peace or quiet — and it’s easy. But when desires differ, or one of them needs something that the other does not want to give, difficulties arise.
To be effective in a relationship, it is important to:
Know and communicate to the other what you want.
To notice or find out what another person wants.
Negotiate and compromise to get at least some of what you want.
Give what you can from what the other person needs.
If the ratio “(I) want – (the other person) wants” is not balanced, the relationship becomes unstable. Paying attention to everyone’s desires and using interpersonal effectiveness skills to resolve conflicts is vital to maintaining healthy relationships.
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